Lakeville Moms Talk Q&A: Are Kids Over Scheduled?

Are today's kids over-scheduled, or do all the activities keep them out of trouble?

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Are today's kids over-scheduled, or do all the activities keep them out of trouble?

Nicole, mom of fiveThis is a tough one as we have five kids and three of them keep us insanely busy with their schedules yet, I am insisting that they other two do something. I want everyone to have an opportunity but, I am exhausted day in and day out driving from one end of town to the next.  I remember the days when all I did was go to gymnastics but my life revolved around playing hand ball, going to the park or just hanging with my friends in the neighborhood. I wish that for my kids at times.  Life just didn't seem so rushed and busy.

We'd love to hear what you have to say as well, so make sure to post your thoughts in the comment section below.

The above answers were provided by members of the Lakeville Moms Council. Members include mothers of toddlers to teens: Nicole Bella Remini-Wiskow, Janet Quick, Tonia Johnson, Pamela Zidarich and Charla Zappetillo. The Lakeville Moms Council meets monthly to discuss issues related to raising kids locally. For more information, email derrick.williams@patch.com.

Carol Shea August 17, 2011 at 12:10 PM
My mother had 5 kids in high school when I was a teenager and we all participated in sports. I think the difference was she did not attend every event that I was involved in. Now that I have four kids, I think the difference is, we feel we have to be there for everything. When, really what would happen if we weren't there? Would our kids still want to do it? Are they just doing it for our approval? Makes me wonder some times.
Derrick Williams (Editor) August 18, 2011 at 02:11 PM
Carol, thanks for the comment. It's a good question to ask. Is there any chance some kids are simply doing too much? School, band, baseball practice, dinner, homework, sleep. Is that too much?
ABSG August 24, 2011 at 12:54 PM
I am absolutely convinced that kids are overscheduled with activities. And some of you have no one to blame, but yourselves! And you are the only ones that can change it! Sports in America today is an epedemic obsession with parents and coaches! The overzealous parents making sure their kids go to a particular High School to play certain sports with certain coaches, on the traveling teams and spend hours upon hours practicing/games. Obsessed coaches riding these kids to do it better, faster, harder, WIN WIN at all costs....etc. The excessive participation in grade school, a win-at-all-costs mentality accompanied by a selfish attitude, excessive competitiveness, the belief that failure in sports means failure in life, a general sadness and anger over pressures to excel on the field, poor academic performance and the belief that sports are the major source of personal values and confidence. Whatever, happen and what's wrong with just playing something FOR FUN? Practice one or two day's a week for an hour and a one game?
ABSG August 24, 2011 at 12:54 PM
Then you have an epedimic of injuries (into the millions) which will linger with these children for the rest of their lives. Nearly half of all injuries were the result of simple overuse. The burning desire from parents and coaches to turn children into tomorrow's superstar athletes has led adults to push these children beyond physical and emotional limits. Unforntunately, with our culture of 24-hour sports networks and million-dollar, prima-donna players, the wrong message is sent about sports, virtues and values. Results in serious emotional conflicts in children as a result of a parental obsession with sports activities. The emphasis on sports causes families to lose focus and proper balance, and kids pick up the message. Youth sports are seen to take precedence over family relationships which is harmful to children’s physical, psychological and spiritual welfare. As in most things in life, balance is needed when it comes to youth sports. Since there are some benefits to team play and physical activity, every family should make the effort to find that balance!


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